We doubt and fear,
and often we just don’t believe in love.
Love, to some, is a far away ship that never comes in,
or a star too far to dream of.
It is “the dream afraid of waking” and “the heart afraid of breaking.”
Will my heart be broken?
Will my soul be crushed?
Will someone take and not give back?
Will I be a fool for love?
Will I lose the love … or lose myself in it?
Will I love too much, or too little?
Will I even know HOW to love?
Will I know how to receive it?
Will someone stay once they see my shadows?
Will they leave?
Will I be able to live with THEIR shadow?
Will I be committed enough, independent enough, lovable enough, dependent enough, brilliant enough, or ENOUGH, period?!”
Will love hurt?
And so we know
we ought not give up completely.
(The heart knows, you know)
The real truth is that there is uncertainty.
We face disappointments in relationships,
especially close, intimate ones,
and the answers to all the daunting questions
point to that uncertainty.
And that is why we shy away from
this thing we call LOVE.
So I offer it here in a series of questions …
- What is more attractive than someone who
possesses great self-love?
- What is more refreshing than someone who is so at ease with themselves that love emanates from them in your presence?
- What is more compelling than the quality of soft, contented self-confidence?
- What do you love to be around more than one who embodies
inner strength, courage, and passion?
- What is more sustaining and nurturing
for the soul than the qualities of self-assurance, self-acceptance, deep self-awareness, and self responsibility?
The secret to everlasting true love
has little to do with anybody
other than yourself.
It will never depend on anyone
outside of YOU.
Find a reason to deeply love YOU
(and there are many reasons,
otherwise you would not be unique)
Develop and nurture within yourself the quality of loving life, no matter what,
the ability to be so in love and excited about life that you can say,
“I wouldn’t be surprised if FIFTY people fell in love with me!”
It is that knowing that makes you instantly
attractive, refreshing, compelling,
It is this kind of self-love
that fills your own tank so full
that you are an overflowing, radiant,
And none of the following matter:
your gender, sexual orientation,
body shape, weight, height,
personality, emotional stability, past failures, successes, education level, race, faith, intelligence, or your preferences of any kind.
Do we NEED love?
Yes, but that need is anything but “needy.”
It is a force so natural and so beautiful
that it beckons us to BE love,
to embrace love, and embody love
so that we are a walking love tank
that naturally attracts love TO us,
always and in all ways.
Those of us who love ourselves will always feel loved, and we will always attract love, hold love, keep love, love love, cherish love, and offer love continuously because we show up as love.
Refuse to worry, wonder, or marinate in
the above fear-based questions at all!
Their answers point to the uncertainties of life.
Let them go – all of them
and DECIDE to be the love you already are,
the love that formed you
and gave you breath, and your beautiful smile.
Don’t fear love.
Stop being so silly. Life is too short for fear.
There are too many people waiting for YOU to be love.
There are too many waiting to love you!